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Performance Orientation


The constant tendency of the born-again believer is to fall back into striving by human effort. Our minds and spirits know the free gift of salvation, but our hearts retain their habit to earn love by performing. We live unaware that motives other than God's love have begun to corrupt our sewing through striving, tension and fear.

Performance orientation is a term, which refers neither to the work we do nor the things we accomplish, but to the false motives which impel us. After we bring performance orientation to death, we may do exactly the same work in much the same way, but from an entirely different intent in the heart. In this lesson we will explore the roots of this problem, and identify the symptoms and the damage it causes.

We can help those who have been wounded in this manner by offering them the example of Christ's unconditional love and acceptance.


You foolish Galatians! Who has bewitched you? Before your very eyes Jesus Christ was clearly portrayed as crucified I would like to learn just one thing from you: Did you receive the Spirit by observing the law, or by believing what you heard? Are you foolish? After beginning with the Spirit, are you now trying to attain your goal by human effort? Galatians 3:1-3


What is performance orientation?


It is an attitude not a set of behaviors. It is an acceptance of lies about us, built into our nature from infancy.

o "Ill do wrong, I will not be loved."

o "If I do not live up to family standards, I will not belong"

o "If I am wrong it means that I am bad."

o A striving to win acceptance, which in some cases has already been given.

o Doing the right things for the wrong reasons. Teaching Sunday school, counseling, and helping friends and neighbors, to earn God's love.

Where does performance orientation come from?

o Prenatal and birth trauma can cause this situation. If a child feels unwanted, and tries to earn his/her place in life.

o Lack of affection, laughter in the home

o Conditional love during "potty" training (and other training) "You did good mommy loves you." "Uch! Why didn't you tell mommy you had to do potty? If I do good I am loved if I do bad I'm not!

o Unwise discipline which sends wrong messages. "Where did my nice boy/girl go? This can't me my little boy/girl. "Go to your room until you can act like yourself; then you can join the rest of the family"

o Family values "There is a right way of doing things, and if a thing is worth doing it is worth doing right." "Our family does it this way." "Everything you do reflects on this family.

o Position in the family-first, middle, baby- competition and comparison. "Why can't you be more like your brother /sister?" "Why aren't you as talented as your brother/sister?"

Recognizing the "fruits" of performance orientation

The performance-oriented person may develop a "loser attitude." The child works so hard to be what is expected of him/her that he/she lose them self he/she feels like he/she is fooling people, and selling them self for love. He/she is angry that he/she must always perform to earn everybody's (including God's) love, affection, appreciation, admiration and acceptance. They know that they will never be good enough, smart enough, attractive, worthy, deserving, or lovable enough to earn it.

The person's anger is often suppressed and he/she may start to rebel; by sabotaging successes in order to fail. This would be a test to see if he/she will be loved even if he/she is a loser.

Some have a need to "succeed." This person fears success as much as failure. He/she is a

workaholic. He or she strives for:

o Compliments

o Yet cannot accept compliments

o Cannot receive criticism

o Is compulsively defensive

o Takes responsibility for everything

o Is overwhelmed, or over busy

o Tends to blame others

o Is tired

o Is angry (although sometimes hidden)

o Ministers but cannot be ministered to

o Cannot receive gifts without reciprocating

o Tries to control people and situations

o Is unable to be truly intimate

o Is lonely

The general results of performance-orientation are

o Fear

o Striving

o Insecurity

There is a compulsive need for approval, and the center of every decision is based on what others think.
The extreme results of P0 are:

o Depression (see the depression cycle on the enrichment page)

o Abusiveness (suppression/expression)


Healing for performance-orientation

The healing for P. Q. will not come from a persons efforts, nor by finding new and better ways to perform. The individual must invite God to slay him/her, and allow others to minister to he/she.


How to minister healing

Love the client unconditionally, as the Lord Jesus loved. Convey this example of unconditional love to the client. Help the client to see that he/she have been doing all the right things for all the wrong reasons. Let he/she know that they may be doing the same things, but his/her reasons for doing those things will change. They will be doing good because he/she loves the Lord, instead of because they want the Lord to love him/her. They will not need the approval from people, because they are no longer doing these things for people's approval. He/she will be doing the good as unto the Lord.

Lead the person through confession, repentance, and forgiveness. Track the fruit to the root causes of the P.O. and lead the person into inner healing. Make sure he/she forgives those primary people who failed to give love.

Elisha's well, a well sping in a dry and thirsty land! Help the client to hate the structures that were built into him/her. P.O. contains a reward system and therefore is difficult to give up. "If I do real good everyone will like me." Pride can keep us from hating P.O. Remind the client that P.O. cantles with it the baggage of "No matter how hard I work it will never be good enough."

Let the person know that he/she cannot fail as long as he/she does not quit. Let him/her know that it" OK to be wrong. It doesn't mean that he/she is bad, it simply means that he/she will have an opportunity
to be right next time.

When P.O. is strong a "Restriction" has formed around the client's mind, spirit, and soul that hinders he/she from walking into the fullness of God's love. Within every "Restriction" is a "Signaling Device" which sends out a signal 24 hours a day 7 days a week. The signal that is being sent out to everyone is (let the Holy Spirit lead you in this area) he/she may have shared with you that everyone picks on him/her; nothing ever works out for him/her; he/she always gets the dirty end of the stick; every time he/she reaches out to help somebody, or lend someone money he/she gets cheated or turned against. You will be able, by the Spirit to see the general patterns that flow through this individuals life There is an "antenna" that is listening and focusing on the first sign of the offense, so that the client can say" See! I told you that it never works out! I told you that I always get rejected, or turned against! All I ever do is try to help people, and all that I ever get for my love,
compassion and effort is dumped on.


I ask the following questions when I hear the client speaking in this manner. What is your reason for doing all of these wonderful things? Are you doing them as unto the Lord, or to get people to pat you on the back? Most of the time he/she will respond by telling you it is for the Lord. If that is so,(I ask) then why do you get so upset when the people you reach out to. turn against you? If you did it as unto the Lord, then you should feel good about yourself, because of your obedience, and the peoples response should not have affected you. However, if you did it to be seen, or acknowledged by them, then I can understand why you would be upset. This then would be you performing knowing that no matter how hard you try it will never work out.

This will get them to see that he/she truly has a P.O. structure. Sharon and I have them say "I pick up the Word of God like a sledge hammer and shatter the structure of performance-orientation. I pick up the pieces and put them to death on the cross. I want to finally be able to rest in the blessed assurance that Your love for me Lord is truly unconditional, and that I can finally rest in the fact that You love me
because You can't help Yourself
You love me, because you called me by my first name before the foundation of the world You chose me, planned me, and called me according to Your purpose and glory. Not because of who I am, but because of Whose I am. I am yours Lord and You are mine

This is an example of how we pray. God will lead you to pray in the way that best suits your personality and style. We just wanted you to get a feel for how we do it.


Remember that all habits, patterns and structures must be put to death on the cross. Flesh must die on the cross. Sins are washed away by the Blood of Jesus.


After the client has forgiven everyone, we ask the Lord to sever the restriction that has hindered his/her walk of freedom, crush the signaling device, and break the antenna that has been focusing on the bitter root expectations. We asked the Lord to sever, crush, and break restrictions, signaling devices, and antennas from birth to this age. Proclaim his/her freedom in Jesus' Holy name



Recommended reading for this lesson "Transformation of the Inner Man" Chapter 3

OLD TESTAMENT

Psalm 58:3-Even from birth the wicked go astray; from the womb they are wayward and speak lies.


NEW TESTAMENT

Matthew 11:28-29 - "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest for your souls."

I Corinthians 4:15 - Even though you have ten thousand guardians in Christ, you do not have many fathers, for in Christ Jesus I became your father through the gospel.

Galatians 1:6 - I am astonished that you are so quickly deserting the one who called you by the grace of Christ and are turning to a different gospel.

Galatians 1:10 - Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ.

Galatians 3:1-3 - You foolish Galatians! Who has bewitched you? Before your very eyes Jesus Christ was clearly portrayed as crucified. I would like to learn just one thing from you: Did you receive the Spirit by observing the law, or by believing what you heard? Are you so foolish? After beginning with the Spirit, are you now trying to attain your goal by human effort?

Galatians 3:7,11 - Clearly no one is justified before God by the law, because, 'The righteous will live y faith."
Galatians 4:9 - But now that you know God-or rather am known by God how is it that you are turning back to those weak and miserable principles? Do you wish to be enslaved by them all over again?

Galatians 5:13 - You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love.

Galatians 6:l-2-Brothers if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each others burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

Ephesians 2:4-10 - But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgres-sions-it is by grace you have been saved. And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order tat in the coming ages he might show the incom-parable riches of his grace, expressed in his kind-ness to us in Christ Jesus. For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith-and this not from your-selves, it is the gift of God-not by works, so tat no one can boast. For we are Gods workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

Hebrews 4:9-10 - There remains therefore a Sab-bath rest for the people of God. For the one who has entered His rest has himself also rested from his works, as God did from His.

Performance Orientation/Depression Cycle
This cycle: is a common dynamic in people dealing with performance orientation. As these individuals come to believe the lie that they must earn the right to be loved, they work harder and harder to perform. This performance is rewarded in countless ways: the job promotion, the higher pay, the status, the compliments, the sense of well being that comes with approval and acceptance.It all seems so perfect! -
But something begins to happen. The more performance-oriented people strive, the less reward there seems to be. They have passed the top of the cycle; doing more and more and receiving less and less reward. At some point, their spirits realize that their efforts are not getting the desired results. Everything they do to please others and to be accepted is not bringing peace. In its place have come anxiety, tension and
an increasing sense of futility~

At this point, a mild depression may set in. It is not always noticed right away and usually is not tended to. Work is no longer rewarding; hence there is decreased performance and thus less affirmation. The depression deepens, spiraling quickly. Less reward, more depression, less ability to perform, less reward, deeper depression until the debilitating spiral empties into a "black hole."
The depressed performers may live in that hole for some time, in the company of stored angers, hates, disappointments, and a sense of numbness. There are no vivid colors or sweet sounds. The spirit may shut down and can no longer support vitality in the body or soul.
This is the bottom of, the cycle.

At some point, these people may realize they are not getting the needed love and acceptance, and begin working to 'get themselves back on track.' Out of nowhere they seem to be able to muster just enough strength to "earn" that all-important pat on the back, that "fix' of love that sends a surge of life-giving energy. Every little bit of renewed strength enables them to perform again. Signs of acceptance and love appear more frequently and the depression lifts,
Unfortunately, the cycle is only beginning again.


Spiritual warfare


PYTHON: Acts 16:16
The spirit that Paul cast out of the woman. Python does not bite its victims it squeezes the life spirit out of them, squeezes the desire to read the word, the desire to be around other Christians, and squeezes out the desire and enthusiasm for the things of God.

Take The Sword of the Spirit and impel it into the mouth and throat of Python, turning and twisting it as it severs the muscles that are used to squeeze the spiritual life from its victims, killing it in the name of Jesus
Christ. Loose 10,000 legion of Warrior Angels who fight on your behalf all the day long. Empower them with the name of Jesus Christ and with "No weapon formed against you shall not prosper and every tongue which rises against you injudgement You shall condemn. For this is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is from me, Says the Lord "
Isaiah 54:17


LEVIATHAN: Isaiah 27:1
This lying twisting and turning spirit. Taking every word that you speak and twisting it in the mind of the person that you are speaking to, in order for them to take offense, and twisting every word you hear so that you will take offense. This spirit causes division and strife, and destroys unity.

Take the severe sword of the Lord and rip the vulnerable underbelly of Leviathan killing it in Jesus' Holy name. Loose 10,000 legion of Warrior Angels who will fight in your behalf all the day long and empower them with the name of Jesus Christ and with "Greater is He that is in me than he who is in this world"
I John 4:4

JEZEBEL: I and 2" Kings
this controlling and manipulating spirit fill of witchcraft and Ahab her husband who allows the control to go on.

Take the sword Excalibur set aside for royalty and decapitate Jezebel and Ahab in Jesus' Holy name. Loose
10,000 legion of warrior angels who fight in your behalf all day long and empower them with the name of
Jesus Christ and with "but my God shall supply all of your needs according to His riches in Glory by
Christ Jesus" Philippians 4:19

ALACON: From the house of Apollo in Greek mythology a chameleon that can mimic all of the others. A winged creature that imbeds its wings into the ground as it holds the other spirits in place over your back and neck.

Take the flaming sword that was given to the cherubim at the gates of the Garden of Eden that blocked the re-entry of Adam and Eve. Cut the mimicking throat of Alacon and with the sword in hand cutting upward cut the wings off Alacon and cast these spirits far from the person that you are praying for. Cast them far from their family, finances, home, job, and ministry. In Jesus' name. Loose 10,000 legion of warrior angels who fight in your behalf all the day long. Empower them with the name of Jesus Christ and with
"And now to He who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we could ask or think, according to the power that works in us.
Ephesians 3:20

Vashti- rebellious spirit turning wives against there husbands
A spirit of divorce found in the book of Ester: chapter1 verse9

About, Swords-
Ezekiel: chapter.25




I hold the Severe sword!!

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