WE SEE GOD
If our hearts are pure we will be able to comprehend the
glorious nature of God and relate to Him in blessed
intimacy. But when bitterness and judgements are lodged
in our hearts, our perception of God becomes distorted
and our relationship with Him becomes crippled.
Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see God.
He who curse his father and mother, his lamp will go out
in time of darkness. Proverbs 20:20
In our infancy and childhood, mothers and fathers model a
picture of God for us. By how they act and what they do,
we "see" what God is like. We interpret each
succeeding experience through the lens of judgements we
have made, and the expectations we have developed in
response to the relationship that we have with our
If we have made many judgements, our views of life and
God become distorted. By the time we reach adulthood our
mind, has been taught to believe that it is God's desire
to love and bless us, however, our heart says, "OH,
yeah? He's just like dad (or mom). We are not capable of
seeing life the way it really is. We have colored lenses
attached to our eyes. We see everything from a wounded or
distorted view. The lenses can only be removed after
there is confession, repentance, forgiveness and the
habits, patterns and structures have been put to death on
the cross. Once this is accomplished God will be seen
clearly, because we will have received a new heart and
Our relationship with Father God
Many Christians have a problem coming into relationship
with Father God. We know that His abundant love is
available in our head, but the "log jam" in our
heart blocks any real intimacy with Him.
child judges the parents
The children form both accurate and inaccurate.
Judgements about parents, which color his/her
relationship with God in adulthood. Angers get stored up
inside when they don't know what, or how to forgive.
Suppressed angers and resentments became tinted lenses
through which we see God and the world. Matthew 6:22
In any area where resentment, bitterness or judgement is
lodged in our heart against our parents, our spirit is
darkened, and our relationship with God is restricted.
We grow into adulthood, but we don't put our childish
ways of thinking, feeling, or seeing behind us. 1
Ideally the parents role, and especially fathers, are to
build each child through love, care, nurture,
encouragement, discipline, teaching, holding accountable,
and drawing limits and boundaries. Unfortunately this
isn't always the case, and even if you had a perfect
father a child's perception doesn't have to based in
The image of an uncaring parent is projected upon God.
When a client asks the following questions:
Why would God allow this thing to happen to me?
Where was God when this occurred?
Why does God hate me?
We do not have to defend God. We need to ask he/she
"What were your mother and father like?"
"I'd Better not make a mistake or else!"
The above response is made when the parents heap blame
and fear on a child as they are
growing up. When the child becomes an adult, he/she has a
bitter root expectation that
God will treat him/her in the same manner. He/she cannot
relax or be spontaneous with
God. He /she becomes a protective, defensive, fearful
does healing come?
Through our ability of discernment, knowledge and the
leading of the Holy Spirit we recognize judgements
affecting how the client sees God. For some clients it is
difficult to see sinful reactions when the parents appear
to be loving, and truly nurturing, but remember that
judgements aren't necessarily based in truth. Judgements
are based in the perception of the child.
Paradoxically, it is easier to bring healing to one who
had "bad" parents simply because it is easier
for the client to recognize his/her anger, fear,
The client must confess and receive forgiveness for sins
against parents. Confessing resentments, bitterness,
judgements/condemnations, and rebellion.
Remembering that mother and father are not necessarily
guilty. The problem is in the heart of the child; his or
her perceptions may not be accurate.
NOTE From time to time we will have a client ask if
he/she should go to the parents and tell them that he/she
has forgiven them for what they did to the client when
he/she was a child? Ask the client a few questions. What
would your agenda be in taking this action? Do you want
them to say that they are sorry? Do you want them to
acknowledge their guilt, and beg forgiveness? If these
are the reasons for your confrontation, then you might as
well prepare yourself for a big let down, hurt feelings,
and a re-stirring of your anger and unforgiveness. The
parents may deny the fact that there was any wrong doing
on their part, which will leave you worse off then you
are right now!
The exception to this would be, if the parents had asked
forgiveness for their part in the client's bad fruit and
the client was too angry to forgive, or he/she simply
rejected the apology. Under these circumstances it would
be appropriate to go to the parents and let them know
that their apology was accepted.
The client must choose life and a blessed relationship
with Father God. He/she must ask the Lord to help change
how he/she sees their parents and how he/she sees God.
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Last Updated Tuesday June 7, 2011. 15:09:59