FATHER AND MOTHER
Almost every failure in life can be traced sooner or
later to the breaking of the one commandment: "Honor
thy father and mother...."
The law of honoring affects our lives powerfully and
completely. For Prayer Deliverance Ministers, the
absolute reliability of God's law is protection against
deception. (Hebrews 4:12,13); through the Holy Spirit and
the Word, we want to help people to recognize the
excuses, rationalizations and smokescreens they use to
"Behold, I will send you Elisha the prophet before
the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord: And
he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children,
and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I
come and smite the earth with a curse." Malachi
THE TREE OF OUR LIVES
The root and trunk of our life is with our parents (or
whoever raised us) and our siblings. The trunk of our
character structure is formed from ages 6-12.
THE LAW OF HONORING
In every area where we could honor our parents, either
consciously or unconsciously life goes well for us.
Everywhere that we could not honor our parents, either
consciously or unconsciously life will not go well for
us. Deuteronomy 5:16
The law of honoring is unchangeable. There are no
exceptions to this rule. It becomes a part of sowing and
reaping. Without Christ's intervention there is no
It is a very reliable compass for us to be willing and
able to detect our own (Prayer Ministers):or others
confusion, excuses, and smokescreens.
flaws can sometimes be rationalized as good behavior
You will sometimes hear "I'm over protective,
because I love my kids so much," or "The reason
that I am so jealous is because I love my wife so
much!" Both of these statements are rationalizations
for control and manipulation.
Love doesn't produce bad fruit. Bitter fruit only comes
from bad roots. When the Holy Spirit helps us to detect
the bad fruit no matter how cleverly disguised, we must
look for judgements and the dishonoring of father and or
We must understand that every Person will have a
wonderful reason for his or her bad behavior!
"I stay away from home because my wife is constantly
critical." "I have to be in control; no one
else will take care of things around here."
Wounds caused later in life will also affect us i.e. loss
of limbs, rape, war, natural disasters etc.
Wounds upon wounds
It is important to take a complete history, because a
child might have been healed and set
free from a molestation at age five by a relative, but is
still experiencing pain from a
molestation by a teacher at 16 or 17.
We reap what we sow, not just in childhood, but also as
adults. The one difference is that we will reap more
quickly as adults.
How quickly that people respond to these later wounds
will be determined by the root system formed early in
life. Healing doesn't come by blaming parents. The
primary factor is our response, not our parents mistakes
or sins. Did we judge or did we honor our parents.
Children are often required to honor dishonorable
parents. As adults who crucify our judgments, we must
also learn to honor parents whose behavior may continue
to be dishonorable. It is important to honor their
positions, even when we cannot honor their actions.
In Acts 23:1-5, Paul confronted the Sanhedrin. He looked
straight at them and said, "My brothers, I have
fulfilled my duty to God in all good conscience to this
day." At this, the high priest Ananias ordered Paul
to be struck on the mouth.
Paul responded to this dishonorable behavior by an
authority, saying to him, "God will strike you, you
whitewashed wall! You sit there to judge me according to
the law, yet you yourself violate the law by commanding
that I be struck."
Those near Paul said, "You dare to insult God's high
Paul replied," Brothers, I did not realize that he
was the high priest; for it is written: 'Do not speak
evil about the ruler of your people."'
Paul asked forgiveness for speaking harshly to the ruler,
choosing to honor his position, even when his behavior
was dishonorable He did not repent for the truth he
spoke, but only the way in which he spoke it. It is not
wrong to judge bad behavior but it is sin to dishonor or
In order to honor our aging parents, we must treat them
like adults. We treat them like children when we act as
o they cannot think for themselves, so we must think for
o They have no sense, so we must make choices for them.
o They can't handle responsibility, so we bear their
burdens for them.
o They can't face reality, so we protect them and don't
hold them accountable.
The truth is, unless our parents are afflicted with
debilitating disease or senility, they are responsible
o Their thoughts and attitudes
o Their choices
o Their responsibilities and burdens
o Their speech, deceptions, denials, blame, martyrdom or
They are adults, and fully accountable for their lives.
Do unto others...
To love Mom and Dad is to treat them, as I want to be
treated. I am an adult and 1 really don't want people to
tie themselves in emotional knots to shield me from the
pain of change, or to take upon themselves the
consequences of my own problems. I want those I love to
share my burdens, not to carry them for me. I don't want
to be spoiled. And I won't do that to my parents, if I
choose to honor them.
Deuteronomy 5:16 - "Honor your father and mother, as
the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live
long and that it may go well with you in the land the
Lord your God is giving you.
Psalms 27:10 - Though my father and mother forsake me,
the Lord will receive me.
Psalms 119:89 - Your word, 0 Lord, is eternal; it stands
firm in the heavens.
Proverbs 20:20 (NAS) - He who curses his father or
mother, his lamp will go out in time of darkness.
Proverbs 30:11-12 - There are those who curse their
fathers and do not bless their mothers; those who are
pure in their own eyes and yet are not cleansed of their
Matthew 5:17 - "Do not think that I have come to
abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to
abolish them but to fulfill them."
Matthew 7:1-2 - 'Do not judge, or you too will be judged.
For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged,
and with the measure you use, it will be measured to
Matthew 7:17-20- "Likewise every good tree bears
good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree
cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good
fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut
down and thrown into the fire. Thus, by their fruit you
will recognize them."
Romans 2:1 - You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass
judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge
the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who
pass judgment do the same things.
Galatians 6:7 - Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked.
A man reaps what he sows.
Hebrews 4:12 - For the word of God is living and active.
Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even
to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges
[discerns] the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.
Hebrews 12:15 (NAS) - See to it that no one comes short
of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing
up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled.
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